Queer Eye: Love Yourself; Love Your Life by the Queer Eye Cast

“Since then, the LGBTQ community has made incredible strides: We can get married; in most states, we have rights in the workplace; and “queer” is now a term of empowerment. It’s a whole new cultural landscape. What better time to bring back Queer Eye. But even more important, the show, at its core, was always about positivity and uniting people. With out country divided on so many issues, we imagined the modern version as even more of a bridge to bring people together.”

p. 12; David Collins, Michael Williams, and Rob Eric

Hello Everyone! Has you probably know if you’ve seen some of my more recent blog posts, I love the reboot of the TV show, Queer Eye! The cast of Queer Eye (Bobby Berk-design, Karamo Brown-culture, Tan France-fashion, Antoni Porowski-food & wine, and Jonathan Van Ness-grooming) have written this book as a team discussing a bit of their backstory and providing tips and tricks in their areas of expertise. No matter whether you’re LGBTQ or straight, male or female, black or white, etc.; this book can be an amazing and uplifting resource for everyone. I hope you enjoy the quotes below from the book and pick up your own copy to read on your own life adventure. 🙂 ❤

“”Being who I am is a constant process, and every day I still work on my relationship with myself.”” (p. 27, Jonathan)

“I’ve learned from my yoga practice and teaching yoga that comparison is the thief of all joy.” (p. 28)

“For me, like I said, it’s an inside and an outside job. I just want to help you look and feel great. That doesn’t mean looking perfect, though.” (p. 28)

“Letting people see you is beautiful.” (p. 28)

“My advice to anyone with a dream is pretty simple: just keep pushing. When people tell you to follow the rules or that you can’t or shouldn’t try something new, do it anyway. Trust your passion. I can’t tell you how many times someone (including me) said, “Bobby, that will never work.” When people ask me how to decorate a living room or which dining room table to buy, I tell them, “Focus on what makes you happy. Don’t focus on what’s hot right now.”” (p. 41, Bobby)

“Trust your gut in your home, at your job, and in your relationships.” (p. 41)

“…it is literally impossible to make everybody happy. You can’t do it. No matter how hard you try, you’re always going to piss someone off. You’re always going to be too good or not good enough in somebody’s eyes. You have to accept that and just focus on the next step.” (p. 61, Antoni)

“I used to think that you had to have a set thing, a defined aspiration that you’re always working toward. But now, when people ask me what’ next, I usually say, “We’ll see.” Not because I don’t have strong ambitions–I do. I have just learned that you can’t control everything in your life. It really comes down to faith. Just have faith in whatever you do–and whatever you cook.” (p. 62)

“But what I realized was that if I wanted to have connections with people, I had to be willing to have conversations with them–and to say, “This is who I am. Let me learn about you.” (p. 68, Karamo)

“You can’t be afraid of a no. That was a big lesson for me to learn, especially in this business, but also in life.” (p. 72)

“Because like Granny said, you always have to keep learning.” (p. 73)

“I realized we all want people to have the same excitement we have about an accomplishment. But really, it’s about how excited you are for yourself. Sometimes, at the end of the day, it’s just you looking in the mirror and saying, “Good for you! You did it!”” (p. 77)

“Repeat after me: Self-care is not vanity.” (p. 83, Jonathan)

“Because so many of us–maybe even you–don’t focus on our own well-being.” (p. 84)

“In other words, you can’t do for others until you do for yourself.” (p. 84)

“But ultimately, this journey is about going deep within because that’s where we are all the most beautiful.” (p. 85)

“We already talked about embracing imperfections. But still, I struggle with body image issues and then struggle with the fact that I’m still struggling with them. Enough already! You get caught up in negative self-talk and you start to spiral. Then, it’s not just about practicing self-care. You need to give yourself a double dose of self-love.” (p. 87)

“For me, it helps to find little pockets of joy within the day to rest up and appreciate my body.” (p. 87)

“When I inhale, I think about drawing in confidence or appreciation for everything I do have. When I exhale, I release fear or negativity or whatever it is that’s consuming me. The important thing to remember is that you are special and you are beautiful. Remind yourself of that every morning and every night.” (p. 87)

“We all have little imperfections–which I like to call “nuances”–that make us unique and sometimes even make us stand out. In my mind, that’s a good thing.” (p. 90)

“I believe that Mother Nature doesn’t usually get it too wrong, so don’t battle what she gave you. Instead, just go with the flow.” (p. 106)

“I believe that wearing what you love and what makes you feel unstoppable is always in fashion.” (p. 115, Tan)

“We want you to engage meaningfully with your feelings and explore what those emotions are trying to tell you. That’s the real work, the marathon.” (p. 148, Karamo)

“But the reality is that you can’t fully appreciate the finer things in life if you’re not living your best life.” (p. 148)

“Help doesn’t make you weaker; it makes you stronger.” (p. 151)

“If we’re not talking to each other, we’re not growing.” (p. 156)

“We tend to deflect compliments, and that’s because we don’t believe we deserve them. That’s a self-esteem issue.” (p. 157)

“Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still. It reminds me that taking small steps is fine, as long as I am moving forward toward a goal.” (p. 173)

“But the bottom line is that life can be messy.” (p. 177, Bobby)

“You might not think of it this way, but food is truly self-care. Eating is one of the most important ways we honor our body.” (p. 200, Antoni)

“You should season food every step of the way when you cook–don’t wait until the end of the recipe. Wait, wait, I feel a teachable moment coming on here… Seasoning as you cook is a nice metaphor for life in that you want to pay attention to every step of something that you do, instead of cramming at the last minute…” (p. 207)

“We really don’t want to go, but it’s time for us to get back to work and for you to fly away from this cozy little nest to use and share what you have learned. Maybe it’s introducing someone to a whole new look or just smiling and making eye contact with a stranger. We officially give you permission to go out and “queer eye” the world. It starts with you–now put your best foot forward!” (p. 252, Queer Eye cast)

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