It’s been a bit since I posted on the blog! Here’s the first post of 2018:
I was approached through my blog to do a book review for Andrea Owen’s newest book, How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t (HTSFLS). This is a great book for anyone (although it’s targeted towards women) who wants to feel better and happier in their life. This book is no-nonsense, humorous, insightful, and relatable. Definitely pick up a copy!
I’ll be sharing quotes from the book and doing so a few chapters at a time. I hope you enjoy this post and the following posts, and use some of this insight on your own happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤
Introduction and How to Get the Most Out of This Book
“…while life knocks us down, it’s these habits that keep us down, and by paying attention, identifying, and putting an end to these habits, we can empower ourselves to find our way back to strength and happiness” (x).
“Life is hard. Not because we’re doing it wrong, but because life is hard” (Glennon Doyle Melton, xi).
“It’s about facing the obstacles, working through and processing them, and loving yourself along the way. It’s about accepting all the feelings and emotions that come along with it… That is freedom and peace” (xii).
“Try your best to pay attention but also try not to overdo it. […] And don’t forget to be kind to yourself along the way!” (xvi)
What attention looks like (xx):
- Heightened awareness of the behaviors you’re engaging in that aren’t in alignment with who you want to be.
- Knowledge of your values.
“By showing up and doing the work, you’re making a declaration that you’re tired of being mean to yourself and of engaging in habits that make you feel bad and that you’re ready to change” (xxi).
Chapter 1 ~ Being an A**hole to Yourself: Learn to Manage Your Inner Critic
“…if you beat yourself up on a regular basis, it takes its toll on your overall happiness, your self-confidence, and your self-esteem” (6).
Practicing Kindness and Compassion Toward Yourself (7):
- Noticing the negative self-talk
- Knowing your triggers
- Committing to the process
“You know what always works to make you feel better and wins in the end? Love, kindness, and compassion. All directed to you” (10).
Your inner critic is the voice that sends messages stemming from core beliefs that you have about yourself” (10).
Knowing Your Triggers (13):
- Know your go-to triggers.
- Realize when you’ve been triggered.
- Start speaking to yourself with kindness.
“The heart of self-compassion is found in talking to yourself as you would to someone you love” (17).
Owen, A. (2017). How to stop feeling like shit: 14 habits that are holding you back from happiness. Berkeley, CA: SEAL PRESS.
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