13 Things by Amy Morin – Chapter 3

“They Don’t Shy Away From Change”

 I happen to like change – it gives us new opportunities and a fresh start. Sometimes though, we have habits and routines that we like and change can be difficult – even if it would be beneficial to our life. This chapter explores why mentally strong individuals embrace change and how to approach change so that it enriches your life. I hope you enjoy this post and remember to allow change a place in your happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤

“It was clear that he was trying to change too much too fast, which is a recipe for disaster” (53).

Baby steps are a good way to approach change, especially if you’re making a big change.

The Problems with Shying Away From Change (60-61):

  • Staying the same often equals getting stuck in a rut
  • You won’t learn new things
  • Your life may not get better
  • You won’t challenge yourself to develop healthier habits
  • Other people will outgrow you
  • The longer you wait the harder it gets

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples” (Mother Teresa, 63).

All it takes is one small change to inspire you to continue to make changes.

“Don’t allow your emotions to make the final decision” (65).

You have to make decisions about changes, especially big ones, with logic and rationality. It’s important to pay attention to your emotions, but don’t let them get the best of you.

Preparing to make change with steps (66-67):

  • Create a goal for what you would like to accomplish in the next 30 days
  • Establish concrete behavior changes you can make to reach that goal each day
  • Anticipate obstacles along the way
  • Establish accountability
  • Monitor your progress

What’s Helpful (69-70):

  • Evaluating your readiness to change with an open mind
  • Setting a realistic time frame to establish and reach your goals
  • Balancing your emotions and rational thoughts to help you make a decision about whether to do something different
  • Willingness to anticipate potential obstacles that could interfere with your progress
  • Reviewing the potential pros and cons of making a change as well as the pros and cons of staying the same
  • Focusing on one small change at a time with clear action steps
  • Committing to behaving like the person you want to become

What’s NOT Helpful (70-71):

  • Ignoring or avoiding even thinking about change
  • Putting off doing anything different until you reach certain milestones or until certain time frames have passed
  • Allowing your emotions to dictate whether you want to change without considering the logical aspects of doing something different
  • Making excuses for why you can’t do anything different
  • Only focusing on the negative aspects of change without considering the positive
  • Convincing yourself not to bother trying to change because you don’t think you can do it
  • Waiting until you feel like creating change


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