13 Things by Amy Morin – Chapter 1

“They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry For Themselves”

“Even when you can’t alter your circumstances, you can alter your attitude” (19).

Every situation you encounter is about perspective-at least, that’s what I think anyway. I’m a “the glass if half full” thinking individual, and it’s important to keep this in mind so you don’t feel sorry for yourself and your current situation. I also believe that everything happens for a reason according to God’s plan, and that you can have a positive attitude, find the silver lining, and learn something from every experience you have. Here are some quotes and tips from this chapter of the book; I encourage everyone to pick up this book on their happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤

“Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive. It leads to new problems and can have serious consequences” (20).

How feeling sorry for yourself impacts your life (20-21):

  • It’s a waste of time
  • It leads to more negative emotions
  • It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy
  • It prevents you from dealing with other emotions
  • It causes you to overlook the good in your life
  • It interferes with relationships

“Even when you can’t fix the problem, you can make choices to cope with life’s obstacles in a positive way” (20).

Some problems aren’t fixable, even though that is hard to accept. There’s always a lesson to be learned, a silver lining, and a reason for everything.

“Instead of pitying ourselves for what we lost, we choose to feel grateful for what we had. When you notice self-pity creeping into your life, make a conscious effort to do something contrary to how you feel” (23).

Know that someone else is struggling much more than you are and be grateful for what you have.

“If you choose to look for the silver lining, even in a bad situation, you’ll experience joy and happiness much more often” (25).

We all want to experience as much joy and happiness as possible-so look for that lining!

What’s helpful (32):

  • Giving yourself a reality check so you don’t exaggerate ho bad the situation really is
  • Replacing overly negative thoughts about your situation with more realistic thoughts
  • Choosing to actively problem solve and work on improving your situation
  • Getting active and behaving in a way that makes you less likely to feel sorry for yourself, even when you don’t feel like it
  • Practicing gratitude every day

What’s NOT helpful (32):

  • Allowing yourself to believe that your life is worse than most other people’s lives
  • Indulging in exaggeratedly negative thoughts about how difficult your life is
  • Remaining passive about the situation and focusing only on how you feel, rather than what you can do
  • Declining to participate in experiences and activities that could help you feel better
  • Staying focused on what you don’t have rather than what you do have

 

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