Chapter 5: “The Rumble”
This chapter is about the middle of our journey; or of an experience or story. It talks about the struggle we go through and what happens in the middle, and how it’s important NOT to skip because it allows you to grow.
“The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness. We must reclaim the truth about our lovability, divinity, and creativity.”
Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I don’t deserve this” or “I’m not good enough?” I know we ALL have. The good thing about this though? Neither of those things are TRUE. We have to tell truthful and positive stories about ourself, not negative ones. Each one of us is worthy of love from others, love and belief in a higher being and purpose, and love for what we create.
“Having the courage to reckon with our emotions and to rumble with our stories is the path to writing our brave new ending and the path that leads to wholeheartedness. It’s also the beginning. Understanding our fall and rise, owning our story, taking responsibility for our emotions-this is where the revolution starts.”
Essentially, we have to be BRAVE through it all because it will empower us and help to make us our best selves.
Chapter 6: “Sewer Rats and Scofflaws”
This chapter is about different types of people; the author has chosen the terms sewer rats and scofflaws for these people. It talks about how there’s people that cause a lot of problems and don’t care, and how there’s also people that do those same things AND make fun of others who follow the rules. Brene talks about how we have to value ourselves and have integrity.
“How can we expect people to put value on our work when we don’t value ourselves enough to set and hold uncomfortable boundaries?”
You have to value your own work before other people value it, and you sometimes have to say no even though it’s hard.
“We’re all doing the best we can.”
Never assume what’s going on with another person.
“The trick to staying out of resentment is maintaining better boundaries-blaming others less and holding myself more accountable for asking for what I need and want.”
Living life resentfully isn’t living at all. Have boundaries that make your life enjoyable and keep you sane (ish).
“I need to take responsibility for my own well-being.”
Make sure to take care of yourself, and don’t depend on someone or something else to take care of you entirely.
“It means we stop loving people for who they could be and start loving them for who they are. It means that sometimes when we’re beating ourselves up, we need to stop and say to that harassing voice inside, “Man, I’m doing the very best I can right now.””
Love is a two way street, and everyone is doing as much as they can to the best of their abilities, including YOU.
“Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.”
I love this quote, and it pertains to so much in life. Remember to be brave and not stay stuck in your comfort zone. Decide what is good and right rather than picking what is the easiest and fastest and not working for it. Live out your values, don’t just say them. It will lead to a better life. If you do these things, you’ll be living your best happy and healthy adventure. 🙂 ❤