Chapter 3 of I AM THAT GIRL by Alexis Jones is entitled “Be Hard-Core.” People have called be hard-core and intense before, but I was never sure if they meant it as a dig or as a compliment. Now I know, or have decided rather, that they meant it as a good thing. This chapter is all about being hard-core, which means that you can’t make excuses and that you need to believe in and take care of yourself. This is a great personal development book for anyone who is in search of one (or just a feel good book). We should all be working to better ourselves and serve the world the best version of ourselves, whatever that may be. We should all want to be great, and can be, and should strive for it on our happy and healthy adventures. 🙂 ❤
Here are some quotes from this chapter that I found inspirational:
“Making excuses instead of putting yourself and your dreams first only leads to a life of mediocrity and regret. And you don’t deserve that, nobody does. But to stop the excuses it’s going to take getting hard-core and figuring out exactly what you want. So push yourself to ignore all those excuses that pop into your head and accept the truth that you are the master of your ship, the author of your life, and that your adventure is only as awesome as you imagine it. Once you stop talking yourself out of doing what you really want, you’ll find the shiniest version of you and experience a sense of accomplishment that rivals any accolades” (74-75).
This quote (or I guess, more of a passage of quotes) I think encompasses the message I’m trying to share through my blog. Living a life of balance, of happiness and healthiness, means not making excuses because you can’t live a happy and healthy life if it’s mediocre because of reasons you made not to do something. I like the line that says, “Your adventure is only as awesome as you imagine it.” It’s true, you can only have an amazing adventure if you picture it and strive for it.
“Like any change, becoming hard-core about your dreams and what it takes to achieve them is a process. It starts by doing what we discussed in the first two chapters of this book: identify your passion and then begin a practice of putting yourself and your basic needs first. Next you’ll need to do four things: let go of your past hurts and let them fuel your fire, trust that you can achieve your dreams, be honest about your time and precious personal resources, and ditch your need for approval” (76).
To live a balanced life, you have to know what you love (your passion) and then work towards it by putting yourself (and your dream) first. You can do the following things listed above to get there. These are all things we struggle to do, or have struggled with at some point in our lives. But if you truly believe in yourself and your passion, you can do these things and live the life you picture for yourself.
“Those things that you’re holding on to, those constant reminders that life is unfair, aren’t making your life any better or helping you live your dreams […] you have to let it go” (81).
“People are brought into our lives to teach us things, to help us grow and stretch” (82).
“Make a commitment that whatever happened in the past does not define you, it doesn’t get to dictate your future, and it says nothing about what you are capable of or who you choose to be” (83).
“You have to believe you can do it before you can dream out all the convenient reasons for why you think you can’t” (84).
“Honesty is the cornerstone of all success, without which confidence and ability to perform shall cease to exist” (Mary Kay Ash, 89).
“But I do know that life naturally demands balance–for every action there is an equal reaction” (Sara Bordo, 90).
“I’m going to practice loving myself daily exactly as I am and where I am” (Emily Greener, 99).
“Integrity is doing the right thing. It’s not succumbing to temptation, it’s maintaining your standards when you’re all by yourself and doing what’s right (not just what’s convenient) even when no one is looking” (101).
“I realized that when we have truly built a reputation on making good decisions, of unbridled self-discipline, unwavering work ethic work ethic with a strong moral compass, that in spite of circumstance and temptation, people are willing to invest in us” (104).
“To get motivated, challenge yourself, scare yourself, and try to learn as much as possible about the people and the things you love because they will always continue to change and surprise you. Mostly love yourself, all of yourself” (Tamara Fernandez, 107).
“Welcome life’s challenges and embrace the version of yourself that you’ll meet when you make it to the other side–stronger, bolder, and a step closer to fulfilling your dreams or accomplishing your goals” (108).